Posted by Dinah on March 27, 2007, at 12:34:18
I told you in chat the other night that my therapist had been really nice to me lately, and that I wasn't sure I liked it because I hadn't earned it. And that being rewarded or compensated with niceness was good to me, but that niceness out of the blue made me feel uncomfortable.
And you said that maybe I needed to learn to accept the unearned sort as well.
It was really really hard for me to talk about this with my therapist, for some reason. And I characteristically left it to the last ten minutes. I told him what I said and what you said. Interestingly, he also seemed to find it hard to talk about and changed the subject even though I had indicated that it was something I wanted to talk about. When I pointed that out, he said that he thought you were right. That I needed to learn more about grace. He said that I might understand grace intellectually but that I didn't understand it experientially.
Anyway, I wanted to thank you for bringing to my attention something that I had mostly dismissed in myself. I have a feeling that there's meat in the issue.
I hope I didn't make him feel self conscious about being nice though. :)
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