Posted by Happyflower on March 26, 2007, at 2:49:24
In reply to Re: want to join me in the Happyflower Dance of Sp » Happyflower, posted by LadyBug on March 25, 2007, at 22:09:02
Hey thanks Ladybug,
The good thing is that I see it so clearly when when someone IS trying to tear me down for their own reasons, not so much because of me, and I am not going to take it personally especially if they really don't know me. This has happened to me before and I would take it to heart. But now I am just going to shug it off my shoulders and not give a darn because I know me and that is what counts. This is a huge cognitive achievement that my T has taught me over time. Maybe it is self confidence too.
This is a good case when someone who comes from an abused past, can read others fairly well when they note "danger". Maybe not real danger, but someone who isn't there for me. My instincts have always guided me and really hasn't been wrong yet, so I let my gut and brain tell me when someone is safe and when they aren't. My T says that this is a good thing that comes out of a bad past.
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