Posted by Honore on March 5, 2007, at 21:03:10
In reply to Re: I'm soooo bad at change » Honore, posted by Dinah on March 5, 2007, at 18:06:07
and it's possible. Very possible.
You don't know exactly what motivated your great grandfather, or your father-- what their hopes and dreams were.
Maybe fufillment, as they pictured it, was having a family who did better. Maybe they had unsatisfied aspirations--or did certain things that were more meaning-inducing than work in a mine. Be a member of an organization, have an avocation or another type of renewal.
Why should you denigrate your aspirations because (maybe) they didn't have them?
Or deny yourself what you can have because they couldn't have it?
You absolutely Should Not Give Up. No way.
You're discouraged, you feel as if you're not making it-- and you taking it out on yourself. Or you're running away from changes that are threatening, because you feel as if you'll lose things, and don't know if you can find what you're hoping for on the other side of change.
Much as I identify with and act that way myself-- and have said things like that in the past (and say other, equally unhelpful-to-myself things in the present), I truly don't believe you have to settle for that.
You can change, it's just hard. I'm not giving up, and I don't want you to either.
Honore
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