Posted by wishingstar on February 22, 2007, at 17:28:09
In reply to Anyone here made Legal Complaint Re T. I'm bout to, posted by scentedgarden on February 22, 2007, at 12:49:54
Hi scentedgarden,
I agree completely with what the other two posters said so far. I was in a situation about six months ago where my ex-T terminated me unexpectadly and refused to even speak to me herself to give me the news... rather, she sent the message through another therapist who was leading group therapy in the day program I was in at the time and had him tell me. There was no final session, no closure.. she didnt respond to phone calls or letters, etc. I do know how you feel to some extent. It was very, very painful for me at the time. I was devestated. And to be honest, it still does hurt sometimes, but NOTHING like it used to. I never reported her to anyone, but I did consider it for a time.
I guess my advice to you would be as the others said - definitely go to the licensing board first. If you dont get the response you want, you can always follow it up with a lawsuit later, but the licensing board is really the place to start. If they believe her behavior was inappropriate, they can issue all kinds of sanctions, ranging from required supervision all the way to removing someones license.
I'd also urge you to wait a few more weeks. I know (trust me, I really do) that you feel like you want to do it NOW. The pain is just so great and you probably feel like you just MUST do something. It's so unfair, so uncaring, so hurtful, and if youre anything like I was, probably on your mind all the time. How is it fair that she gets to just let go while youre left feeling so terrible about this? I know. It's not fair at all. But the reason I urge you to wait a few weeks is just to give yourself a little more emotional distance from it. That way you'll probably be able to present your case with as much effectiveness as possible. A lawsuit would be very stressful and likely bring up a lot of feelings for you in addition to those you are already feeling, so giving it a few more weeks or so until you feel a little more ready for that might be an idea.
For me, I did consider reporting her, but ultimately, as time went on, decided not to. I still think my ex-T was terrible and deserved to be in trouble for what she did. I havent changed my mind on that one bit. However, over time I guess I've decided that she just isnt worth it. Yes, it still hurts and yes, some part of me still misses her in an odd way. But I'm not going to let that woman control my life or my feelings any more. If I complained I know that I'd end up having to face her again, or at least have some indirect dealings with her, and I know that would be painful. I'd still be hoping for some comforting or reassurance from her on some level, but I know now that it will never happen. So it's just safer for me to leave it alone. If reporting your T is the right answer, I'm not trying to talk you out of it. Just trying to share my experience for something to think about, I guess.
Good luck. I know it hurts, and feels like it'll never get better, but take it from me... it will. I never thought it would either, but it has gotten easier. You'll be okay.,
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