Posted by DannaB on February 21, 2007, at 20:50:40
In reply to Re: my therapist says..., posted by peddidle on February 21, 2007, at 20:25:51
It's funny that it seemed like I was being witty when I just goofed on trying to post :)
My therapist says that I withdraw as a way of showing someone that I love them and seeking their love and approval. He says this because my mother is the type to show me love and concern when I'm down but then she sort of kicks me when I'm up (the moment I start to feel good). The secondary gain is that I receive my mother's attention and approval.
However, it is problematic in other areas. He's noticed a pattern that whenever I start dating someone I start feeling depressed and withdraw from activities I participated in when I was single. Of course, this pattern is SO ATTRACTIVE to guys (*sarcasm*). Rather than showing love and concern, they usually decide that I'm boring and they lose interest.
I'm dealing with such a situation right now. It seems like everyone wants to date someone who has a life that's fuller and more interesting than their own. :( :(
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