Posted by 10derHeart on January 28, 2007, at 22:50:06
In reply to Termination Thoughts/Book, posted by LadyBug on January 28, 2007, at 20:18:26
That's ok, LadyBug, I'm pretty good at the links and helping with them satisfies some sort of OC urge for me, and it helps out Dr. Bob at the same time....so everyone wins?!! :-)
Here's the Amazon link:
"Good Goodbyes: Knowing how to End in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis"
Termination....<sigh>.....ugh :-( I can't think of it for very long. I guess I'd have to admit I love my T. on several levels. (I may have never said or written that anywhere before!!) And my T., well, he scares me about this for a weird reason. Which is that he always says not to worry about it, that it doesn't need to be any time soon, that the subject is "off the table," so that I'll never have to worry he's sick of me, thinks I'm wasting his time, not doing it "right," not progressing enough, or being "too well," to continue....all that stuff he knows I worry about sometimes. But it's weird, I'll ask him, "then how will you/we *know* when it IS time? Just when I quit crying immediately any time I even think of not seeing you?" And to this he sorta agrees, but sorta avoids...and I don't get it really. He seems so totally unconcerned. <shrug> Maybe it's time to bring it up again.
LB, have you and your T. discussed her views on it? Does she believe there must be a clean break....someday? Or is it more like with frida's T.? I really hate talking about it, but then I feel wrong and weird if I never do.
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