Posted by caraher on January 26, 2007, at 18:04:31
In reply to Re: lying to my therapist, posted by Raindancer on January 26, 2007, at 16:48:02
Like Raindancer said, even if you thought the unspoken message that your trip to bed was for solo entertainment, "Bert" might not have picked up on that meaning. After all, "it's not the same" in many ways whether you did that, went to sleep or bawled your eyes out!
I can think of lots of reasons you might have wanted to leave that impression. You might be afraid he thought you overreacted - either that the slight from your husband didn't warrant that reaction, or that the slight was entirely imagined. (Speaking from experience, sometimes TV is simply a timekiller while waiting for something better to do; did you give him any kind of gentle reminder?)
Would you have said the same thing, with the same implication, to a friend? I guess I wonder how much is that you want to react to that a certain way, and how much of it is wanting to appear a certain way to your T. Is your "guard" down with him, or are you (not consciously) trying to impress him with your apparent emotional strength.
(((Tamar))) I'm sorry you felt rejected that night. I'm not so worried about what you said in therapy.
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