Posted by littleone on January 21, 2007, at 23:02:59
In reply to A Safe Place, posted by littleone on January 19, 2007, at 17:16:46
Thank you for sharing your safe places (and box) with me. They all sound so wonderful and special. Having a safe place can make such a difference. I’ve only recently started to understand that feeling safe is a real need and learning to recognise when I feel unsafe.
Safety has been on my mind so much recently. I felt very unsafe at home with my husband. He gets mad a lot and then I tend to see him as my dad. I have a lot of trouble seeing him as himself. So I’ve found that my need for a safe place has been very great lately.
It’s interesting how I desperately need a screen or something for my real life safe place. I need to be huddled into a corner to feel safe. One day my T’s daughter walked into my T’s waiting room and it totally terrified me (I think that I’ll disintegrate/vaporise if we are together). So I scurried into one of the other offices there and huddled in the corner until my T found me later on.
So it’s interesting that my safe place (real or imaginary) can never be round or open. Has to have corners.
And hidden behind lounge chairs or under tables is safe too.
Sometimes I wonder what healthy kids find safe. If they need corners and chairs, or if their idea of safe is being held in their mother’s arms or something.
I find it hard to talk about safety. It so easily leads to unsafe places. I’m sorry if this isn’t a safe thread anymore.
I painted my little bookcase in a pretty soothing lilac colour. It’s very pretty. And nothing like the rest of my house. It’s just for my special safe place. And I got a couple of the Willow Tree statues. They have so much feeling in them. I have my papasan which is like a soft comfy nest and I just need a little box for my art supplies and a little low table to draw at. I wish I could have found a screen to hide away my little corner. I found a really pretty feather yesterday.
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