Posted by All Done on December 8, 2006, at 15:35:22
In reply to So sad about T... what's wrong with me?, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 8, 2006, at 13:34:27
I know exactly what you mean, lgl. I completely understand how painful it can be to even walk out of a T's office, much less to stay away for days or more. I once told my T that the better he gets at understanding me or the better "we" get together...the better our therapeutic relationship gets...the harder it is for me. I hate to leave the person who's now meeting some of my needs - needs that have never been met before. I want more of what I never had. I want more of what I should have had.
In the beginning of therapy, I asked my T how I can grieve something I never experienced. If I've never had it, how can I miss it, you know? I guess the options are to try to grieve an idea of something, which may or may not be accurate, or my T can help me to actually experience getting some of my needs met. But it hurts so much to think of what I missed. And it hurts to know I can't have that from him all of the time. I find it to be a very lonely experience sometimes.
Anyway, I'm rambling.
I'm sorry you feel like you need a Babble break but I understand how it can be hard to be here. I hope you don't stay away too long, though.
Take care,
Laurie
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