Posted by Dinah on November 19, 2006, at 12:05:46
In reply to Re: please be sensitive » Dr. Bob, posted by kerria on November 18, 2006, at 19:57:51
Kerria, perhaps Dr. Bob wasn't clear about what he's saying. And it's not an intuitive thing, it's a rule here on Babble. So I don't think Dr. Bob was saying you did anything wrong, exactly. He was just trying to inform you of Babble policy.
Dr. Bob long ago extended the civility blanket from this board to the other board. Because there is a fair amount of overlap of posters. So the rules say that you can't say anything about people on that board that you can't say about people on this board. Even if you don't name that board specifically or any posters from that board specifically.
He's not trying to reject you or hurt you or trash you. He's just trying to inform you of Babble rules so that you don't inadvertantly break them.
While his "this doesn't mean I don't like you" sounds a bit perfunctory, he does mean exactly what he says. He means that he's not making a judgement about you as a person. I've always admired that about Dr. Bob.
It's not at all against babble policy to be supportive to you. It's not against babble policy for you to express your own feelings, including hurt.
You just are asked to do it without mentioning anything that posters on this board (or that board) did in negative terms.
And while it may be therapeutic to mention those things, Dr. Bob asks that you just not do it on this board.
Don't feel bad about what's in the past. Just keep his request in mind in the future, and you and those who support you will be following Dr. Bob's rules just fine.
It's ok. You didn't realize and now you do. That's one purpose of Please Be Sensitives. To inform. Not to embarass.
I'm sorry about the mess with your therapist. I know that for all the problems in your relationship, he was someone that you relied on. And it's hard to build up a new relationship with someone else.
poster:Dinah
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