Posted by Daisym on November 15, 2006, at 11:51:24
In reply to Re: I think the Real Work has started CAbu trigger » Daisym, posted by Lindenblüte on November 15, 2006, at 10:00:36
I guess I want to ask what you think the consequences would be...would she think you were blaming her? ARE you blaming her? (You don't have to answer, of course.) It might help to write out what you'd want to say and take it in to therapy. It is a way to vent some of the anger and grief and then get a handle on it so you can survive the holidays.
How I feel about my mother is so complicated that I've often wondered if I could ever work with a female therapist on this stuff. I think that is what I'm sort of doing in this group - practicing "telling" women and being vulnerable with them. It just doesn't feel safe to me.
Yesterday I said something about hoping the longing would go away - the longing for closeness and for my mother to really "see me." It gets in the way of moving forward.
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