Posted by Dinah on November 10, 2006, at 17:01:49
In reply to OK, thread on TOUCH., posted by muffled on November 10, 2006, at 15:46:30
I think it may depend a whole lot on where you are, both in your therapeutic relationship and in your therapy progress. And also on what you find upsetting and/or comforting.
I started asking for handshakes somewhere around eight or nine years, and a hug at ten. I've gotten a few since then, not many, and I have to say I find the idea better than the actual. But it's not unpleasant either. It's sort of neutral.
But I wouldn't have been ready for it at all, at say five years. It wasn't the right time, and while I was beginning to trust him, a hug - or even a handshake - just wouldn't have been the right thing at that time.
I'm kind of glad my therapist's boundaries include touch, because I might have obsessed a bit if they didn't. But I'm even more glad that I'm in no danger of getting hooked on it. :)
I do, however, trust him, and find his touch comfortable. I don't say that about many people in my life.
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