Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2006, at 15:18:04
In reply to possible neg. of babble on the ther. relationhip, posted by SatinDoll on November 7, 2006, at 14:16:58
I suppose I should admit I've been known to say things like:
You're normalizing my experience!!! I hate it when you normalize my experience! It makes me feel dismissed!
Yes, yes, I know I hate you to normalize my experience. But there's that exception for when I think I'm going crazy. Normalize!! Normalize!!
Oh for heavens sake. If you're going to give me positive reinforcement, make it subtle. I feel like I should clap my flippers and bark.
Don't just sit there and reflect back what I just said. Please react. Be real.
You're trying to problem solve. I need some unconditional acceptance right now.
Yes, yes. I see it. He's using intermittant rewards with me. It sure is effective, isn't it?
You never push me. Other people's therapist confront them, and you just won't.
I wish you were more like Daisy's therapist. Everyone wants a therapist like Daisy's therapist.
I should add that I do say that sort of thing, but it comes out way more confrontationally in writing than it does in session. In session it's said gently and with a smile, and is usually received in the same spirit it's given. Except maybe the stuff about Daisy's therapist. He seems to be a bit sensitive on that topic.
But most of the time, he just teases me about it. And overall, I think it makes him think and not rely on the tricks of his trade. A therapist ought to be kept on his toes. Keeps him from getting bored.
poster:Dinah
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