Posted by Dinah on October 29, 2006, at 9:34:18
In reply to Re: I think therapists are nuts, most of all of them, posted by SatinDoll on October 29, 2006, at 4:52:12
I'm not sure what my therapist does with his short term clients. But with me, he pretty much shows his warts.
I wouldn't say he's nuts, but he's human and he has just as many issues as I do. Living wise, he might have a few more in that his life is far less stable than mine is, and he's faced more career and personal challenges that weren't unrelated to who he is.
But...
He faces different challenges than I do, and his flaws are a flip side of his strengths. His strengths complement me quite well in the areas that I need strength from a therapist.
Just like my husband's flaws are a flip side of his strengths, and his strengths complement my needs in a husband.
Just like my flaws area flip side of my strengths, although I have a harder time seeing how my strengths are useful to anyone.
My therapist told me long ago (and repeats now and then) that I have a genius for finding what I need in life. For creating situations to compensate for my weaknesses. Except for my job, which I really think is too stressful to be healthy for me, I think he's probably right.
So maybe your therapist (and everyone else's therapist) is a bit nuts. But as long as they're nuts in a different way than you are, or in a way that's useful to you, maybe that's not such a bad thing. I'd hate having a perfect little therapist who had never struggled with his/her own issues? It would annoy me no end and not be helpful at all.
Incidentally, there are two people I admired as being two of the most centered, well adjusted, people I'd ever seen. I admired them no end. As I got to know one of them better, and found out something about the other one by accident, I realized they were as nuts as I am.
So maybe therapists are nuts because everyone is nuts, if you get to know them.
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