Posted by pegasus on October 26, 2006, at 9:53:54
In reply to Re: Today's the day... ED**trig, maybe?, posted by Racer on October 25, 2006, at 13:04:48
> Atually, that's not what happened. When I had gained weight on Effexor/Prozac combo, he told me once he thought the reason we never had sex was that he just wasn't attracted to me anymore because I'd gained so much weight. And when I told my aunt about that, she told me, "Well, you did become quite heavy..."
>I don't know how helpful this will be, but I wanted to let you know that I've been thinking about your post all night. At first I was angry at your husband for saying such a thing. But then I started pondering how much better it would be if he thought it but didn't say it. Not all that much better, really, I'm guessing. So what I'm really angry at him for is thinking that way. It's so selfish! It's so unfair to you! I wish you had a partner who could look for and appreciate all of the wonderful things about you that have nothing to do with your weight, whether you're in a thin or thicker form. God, it's no wonder you're anxious. Having your husband and family say such things, considering your history and current distress, must be crazy making. He sounds like he needs an empathy transplant.
But for what it's worth, I just want to say: I think you're great. I am always glad to see your posts, and I read every one of them. I think you have a lot of smarts, and a lot of pain, and a lot of fear, and some unfair challenges, and big desire to help that breaks through the pain and fear in an impressive way here. I have no idea what your body looks like, and I won't ever see if you gain or lose weight. But I think you're marvelous. You are a marvel, and I'm glad you're here.
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