Re: boundaries? trigger

Posted by alexandra_k on October 15, 2006, at 0:58:35

In reply to Re: boundaries? **trigger** » alexandra_k, posted by Lindenblüte on October 14, 2006, at 22:07:53

Thanks. I do feel stronger for a couple of reasons:
1) I've managed to be able to choose to not feel victimised. That means a huge weight is lifted. I don't feel violated which helps because:
2) He is (generally speaking) a nice guy. The combination of which means that I took a measured risk in deciding to trust him. So... I'm not *completely* hopeless with that... And at the same time it didn't pay off. I didn't handle the situation in the best possible way... But I think I've learned something.
I've been working today too. Things are a mess with that, rather. But plodding on and it has to be done and I feel better for that though slightly demoralised at times...
> As far as I see it, you didn't do anything very regretable. The man behaved much more inappropriately than you did. HE should feel shame. HE should feel guilt. HE should feel sad at ruining what could have been a positive friendship with you.
Yeah. The friendship isn't ruined exactly, but now I know I need to be careful with him. He isn't safe in some respects.
Thanks.

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