Posted by pegasus on October 6, 2006, at 10:12:31
In reply to Questions about therapy from a newbie, posted by NthnBrazil on October 6, 2006, at 5:19:53
I do agree with what others have said. But I also wanted to mention that if you have a feeling of just not connecting with this person, it's totally valid to move on and try out someone else. Over the years I've interviewed a lot of therapists, and some of them seemed right away to have potential, and I then needed a few session to get a real feel for how well I thought we'd connect. With others, though, I just knew 20 minutes in that I wasn't going to connect well. So, I'd say, it's ok to listen to your intuition if it's ringing bells and waving flags.
That said, it's not unusual that a psychodynamic T would leave long silences and wait for you to talk. There are therapeutic reasons to do it that way. Personally, that would drive me nuts and I'd want to address it or move on right away. Sometimes if you mention to them how it makes you feel, it can lead to productive work. Or if you ask them to give you more interaction, they might adjust.
Good luck. Welcome to the fascinating world of therapy.
p
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