Posted by Jost on September 30, 2006, at 22:53:21
In reply to Re: My T has breast cancer » annierose, posted by mair on September 30, 2006, at 10:19:22
Mair, that must be so upsetting, and dislocating.
I can't imagine getting that news from my T--or any other person I cared about. Sometimes I think about my T getting sick, and don't know how I would cope.
Maybe whatever she has will have been caught at an early stage, and the fall-out of it will be minimal, although disturbing and disequilibrating.
I'm sure she expects you to have difficulty accepting and not-accepting, and talking about, and really letting out whatever you feel. She certainly knows that you'll worry about her reactions, and what she's going through, and want, from consideration, to spare her your upsetness.
But maybe she wouldn't want that. Maybe honesty will bring you closer. You can certainly feel out how and what she can tolerate, given her possibly greater vulnerability.
I really hope things go well for both of your sakes,
Jost
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