Posted by ElaineM on September 5, 2006, at 23:41:47
In reply to T attachment, posted by muffled on September 5, 2006, at 22:58:24
Muff, it's pretty brave for anyone to say that they are attached to another. Scary -- it's kinda like putting the ball in their court. I don't think attachment is bad -- at least not the right kind, which I think is what others experience with their Ts.
I am glad I met LadyT. I'm glad I felt attached to her. And that's not to say I don't still ache because she's gone -- because our relationship, as it was, is gone. I do, alot. I think with all attachments there is always gonna also be some pain somewhere, it's just that with the good attachments the positive feelings and the good stuff will end up ultimately outweighing any possible hurt.
It is my attachment to you (and babblers) that gives me strength and keeps me going. But it still feels risky to put yourself at the mercy of someone else's judgement. I suppose you judge the person then by how they've handled "knowing you" in the past. I don't know much about her, do you think your T has been accepting that way before?
Sorry, Muff, my eyes are starting to droop.
Thinking of you, with hugs, EL
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