Posted by All Done on September 1, 2006, at 16:48:32
In reply to Re: Email protocol, posted by muffled on August 31, 2006, at 18:29:29
> ***Yeah, its tough isn't it. Even when I HAVE called, I'm usu. so paralyzed I can't talk, or I'm stoned and not terribly rational.....
I always think about *exactly* what I'm going to say, and then I can only get out about a third of it. He keeps telling me that his voicemail will record for quite awhile, so I don't have to keep it real short. I just get too nervous.
> ***WHOAH!!!!! Nice T !!!!I think so! ;)
> ***Yeah, my T keeps me grounded somehow. Dunno why either.Just his voice helps to calm me and I have mustered up the courage to call his voicemail just to hear him when I know he won't be around. Umm, at about 4 a.m. :(
> It might be VERY good to have some basic guidelines in place right away to save misunderstandings.
> Eg. T don't reply unless specifically asked to.
> Restrict # and length of e-mails, cuz they DON'T replace therapy, and sometimes if you've e-mailed, somehow it feels like somethings been dealt with but really hasn't.
> I use faxes as a way to say stuff I would normally not be able to bring myself to say. Then we talk about the faxes at the next session. Works pretty good. Though we can never get thru it all each time. Which can be a little frustrating. But I've learned it'll all come around in good time.I love the idea of rules, but from experience, I'm fairly certain my T won't give any specifics to me. He likes to leave things open-ended. I once tried desperately to get him to set a number of calls that would be "too much" in between sessions. I was not doing very well and I was concerned that I'd end up calling a million times in between a Wednesday and a Saturday. All I could get out of him was, "I *can* tell you how many calls before Saturday is *not* enough." Then, he made a zero with his fingers.
> I've got a couple of nice voicemail messages saved that my T has left me. Sometimes(more often than I would like to admit!!!)I listen to them, and that helps calm me.
> One of the voicemails is positively inspired and I love it, and it helps me lots.Your T sounds pretty great. :)
> Mebbe you could have your T leave you a nice voicemail to have?He left me one message when I asked and told him that I would like to have one on my home voicemail because my cell deletes them. Then, there's one I saved when he called just to tell me he was thinking about me and he felt that was something I needed to hear from him at the time. I like that one. :)
Thanks, Muffled. It seems you've got things pretty set with your T in terms of between session communication. I'm glad to hear from you. :)
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