Posted by Dinah on August 16, 2006, at 10:00:36
In reply to Re: Suggestions on coping with Aunt G? » Tamar, posted by crazy teresa on August 15, 2006, at 23:39:17
Maybe she's angry. Most of the people I know who had to go to assisted living were angry on many many levels. Not least the loss of power over her own life. Maybe the only way she has to approximate that power is to exert power over others.
It doesn't make it any easier to live with, of course. And regardless of what she requests, I think it's fair to say that your visits will be cut short if certain conditions aren't met. When my father was sick, I knew he was angry. But he still knew that if he insulted my son, or threatened to kill a family member (idle threat), or said things to me that exceeded a certain level of unkindness, I'd kiss him and tell him I was sorry I wasn't able to stay.
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