Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2006, at 8:29:16
In reply to Re: Dependent on a stranger » Dinah, posted by All Done on August 8, 2006, at 3:56:47
> But what if the him at home can't handle or hates my dependency on him?
From what you've said about him, that seems very very unlikely. He's acted in ways that pretty much rule this out. (And I have some experience on this topic.)
> What if the him at home isn't very dependable in general? How does he reconcile the two without ending up really hating me for burdening him?
Maybe he is undependable at home. It wouldn't surprise me about my therapist, that's for sure. But think about the accountant who doesn't balance their checkbook, the doctor who smokes, the minister who can't make time for his kids. It happens. It doesn't affect who they are at work.
The him you interact with every week is a constant him, and the real him in therapy.
It's disappointing to learn that they aren't like that everywhere, everyday. But likely they aren't.
I just figure I get the best part of mine.
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