Posted by Daisym on July 26, 2006, at 0:50:26
In reply to I love my shrink (***trigger***), posted by Tamar on July 25, 2006, at 19:11:32
Could it be that your 18 year old wants to be "seen" and accepted completely? If feels, from your post, like she is seeking a protective space from your therapist...she wants carved out time in which to express her anguish. She wants a witness to her pain. And she wants to know that she is loveable and has permission to love without sacrificing some part of her as payment. (projection alert!) But really, as close to home as this hits for me, I think she needs you to understand and love her, but it starts with his love and approval.
It would be hard to not know what direction this need might run in. If it flairs in a sexual way, I'm sure he can handle himself. If it shyly peeks out, like today with the tears, you might need to ask him to coax her out.
And writing it all down, for me, is part of getting heard and seen. He might dismiss it (I doubt it) but you will know the story has been told and the feelings captured and released. This in and of itself will probably feel good.
I'm glad though that you connected, at least a little, before this break. You sound slightly better but still fragile.
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