Posted by ElaineM on July 24, 2006, at 22:44:32
In reply to HELP WITH ABANDONMENT, posted by iarosepetal on July 24, 2006, at 21:28:34
Rosepetal: I'm so sorry that you're in so much pain. I wish I was in a better postion to tell you something that could bring you some relief, but I'm struggling with the T relationship myself. I do think that you are brave, however, to have posted your story here -- You're trying to reach out to help yourself. I remember posting for the first time, and I was scared out of my mind. I still get jitters hitting the "confirm" button. But I also remember how panicked I was, to take that leap. I can understand the place you are posting from.
You have every reason to feel what you do. Sometimes I find that writing it out (or maybe slowly talking about it with your new T) helps a little -- at least in the alone hours. It brings it out of your head (and heart) a bit.
I would hope that another T could help you work through the trauma of your last relationship. Sometimes we only here of therapeutic failures, but I've heard of some truely lovely T's from the other posters on this board, and how they've helped them. It will be so hard, but I think you should give this new T a chance. Depression is hard enough on it's own -- you deserve another's help figuring all of it out.
Maybe you could have your last meeting with him as a joint meeting with your new T? It might not be as intense then. New T will know how to protect the setting, and get a detailed perspective on what you are leaving, and how horribly his leaving has hurt you.
Keep posting. You are not alone here. Others will relate :-)
Take care of yourself, Elaine
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