Posted by mayzee on July 23, 2006, at 20:22:36
In reply to Re: as above, breaking my heart » mayzee, posted by crushedout on July 22, 2006, at 16:28:39
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> I totally understand your frustration and often feel exactly the same way. But I also suspect it's not about your T. I mean, even though it's possible that if you got a really unattractive T, this wouldn't come up, it still is not entirely about the therapist.
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> And your P.S. makes me think especially that this may be something important you need to deal with. Although what "dealing with it" means, I have yet to really figure out myself, as you can tell from my posts above.
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Thanks for your reply crushed. It has me thinking about what it is I can learn from this. It's weird, because it doesn't feel like love to me so much as *infatuation*. I've only known him a few months but felt this big crush after just 1 or 2 sessions. Mainly I just want to get rid of that feeling and get down to work with him on my other issues.So there's the aspect of not wanting to have the feeling if I can't act on it. Being very frustrated by that; and out of control. There's definitely my thoughts that "if only I were good enough, then he'd love me back." And the "I'm too needy" stuff. I'm also thinking there might be some work around why I have a huge crush on someone I don't even know (he doesn't tell me anything about his private life). Especially because the last guy I dated, years ago, I had a similar "this makes no sense but I'm obsessed" crush on. So I guess all of those things are things to work on. It's just so distracting sometimes!!!
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