Posted by joslynn on July 11, 2006, at 15:00:26
In reply to Here we go again, posted by Tamar on July 7, 2006, at 6:19:43
> he should have told her that he made a mistake in therapy that I was struggling to deal with.
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> I don’t think it’s fair for him to give my GP an assessment of my mental health without .... (b) informing her of *his* role in my current struggle.
>That brings up an interesting topic. I once had a therapist make some classic T mistakes regarding excessive self-disclosure and other stuff. It triggered a bad reaction in me. I realize that I am the one who has to deal with my own emotions, but the T errors definitely contributed to the situation. Anyway, the person did apologize and change behaviors.
But afterwards, when that time of my life happened to come up in conversation about my history or whatever issue was at hand, ther person's role in it was erased. I felt like the T simply erased their mistakes in their mental landscape of that time. And I didn't think it was helfpul to say "but remember, part of that was because YOU kept saying blah blah and did XYZ" but it was interesting how the big mental eraser came out. Or maybe, the person remembered, but thought they were protecting me by not bringing up again.
I guess my point is, if Ts and pdocs have trouble admitting their mistakes to themselves and their clients, it's probably unlikely they would admit their mistakes to another professional, especially another doctor.
I wonder if anyone has had an experience where a T has said to another professional, "part of this was my fault, I made some mistakes." I sometimes make that kind of statement at my job, and it always seems to clear the air, but it seems tabu from one T-type professional to another.
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