Posted by LadyBug on July 9, 2006, at 23:43:31
In my last visit with my T, I told her about 2 surgeries that I am having. One is a week from tomorrow. The other one I need to schedule depending on how I feel after the first one. I'm hoping for later that week so I don't have to take too much time off work. I've known about the first surgery for a month or so I just needed to see the surgeon and set a date. The other surgery was not planned but needs to be taken care of too. So she said we need to talk about what to do while you are out of commisiion. I said ok.
She said, "Under the circumstances I think it would be appropriate for me to come and visit you at your home, what do you think?" I said "What do *you* think? I trust her completly and know she would never offer it if she even remotly thought it was not okay. She is very strick with boundaries and I'm ok with that.
She is going out of state this week to an assignment she has with a therapy insititute she works with. So I won't be seeing her this week. I probably won't be able to drive for a week or so so it's not likely that I can see her the week of my surgery and I might not feel up to going to her office anyway. I will be off work for at least 2 weeks so we are both thinking I might not see her for a total of 4 weeks between visits. I do so much better when I see her every week. We've worked together for over 9 years and this is the best we've done the past year. She said, "You've always talked about us visiting out on your deck, now we could reallly do that."
I'm almost in shock. I told her I'd think about it. I want her to come over! It just makes me feel like everything would need to be perfect!! My house is basically clean and I spent this weekend making sure the carpet got cleaned and I even got some new rugs etc. to improve things. What will she think? I don't think she'll care what it looks like. She's seen pictures. It wouldn't be a shock. My house is about 8 years old, so it's not in too bad of shape. The drive for her would take 20 to 30 min. each way. How long would she stay? I'm not sure.
What do you guys think? Put youself in my shoes. If your T offered to come and visit you after a surgery, would you like that, or would you let them?????? It's a dream come true, but is it really what I'd like? I'm thinking I will let her. She left me a voice mail the day after our visit this week and mentioned 2 different times that she feels completly comfortable coming to my home to visit me during this time.
Wow, I can hardly believe I'm typing this. But it makes me feel good inside to know how supportive she is of me.
I'd love to know how you'd feel or what you'd do if you were me in this situation.
Thanks!
LadyBug
poster:LadyBug
thread:665611
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20060703/msgs/665611.html