Posted by daisym on July 2, 2006, at 15:26:11
In reply to Re: Therapy anniversary » All Done, posted by gardenergirl on July 2, 2006, at 5:21:39
Three Years is huge. You should get a purple heart at the very least.
Your honesty in sessions is so amazing. And your pain almost palpable. I wish I could offer words of advice to help it ease up but all I can say is that there is an ebb and a flow and your internal protectors will help with this.
The depth of the work you are doing does call out all these little kid, anxiety ridden needs for support and closeness. It makes sense that you would need your therapist more when your husband is gone. But more importantly, your therapist is holding all this really important work for you, all those inner thoughts, wants, needs and past hurts. Of course you want to be with him a lot. You are open and raw and you get some relief from the stress of holding it when you are with him. Who doesn't want relief? I doubt he is pushing you away, but I agree that he is unlikely to want to cause you pain, even if it is "good for you." My therapist used to tell me that it will ease off on its own. I'm still waiting.
I like thinking of hugs as another form of communication. It takes some of the charge out. And I'm absolutely sure you will have lots of other "perfect" opportunities.
I hope you can relax into your vacation. I think I'm looking forward to it as much as you are!
Love and hugs,
Daisy
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