Posted by All Done on July 2, 2006, at 3:57:02
In reply to Re: Wow. I feel like such a spoiled brat. :-( » All Done, posted by littleone on June 28, 2006, at 21:22:15
> Hi All Done, how did you go with this?:
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> > Well, he's not the one making the suggestions. His suitemate recently moved out and so there have been a few changes in furniture, etc. I've been talking about it every session and telling him what I want. What would make it more "my" space. I've requested a desktop sand tray or something to play with, a soft leather couch with overstuffed arms, and softer wattage light bulbs in the new lamp. (I went ahead and purchased those and plan to give them to him on Wednesday as part of my third therapy anniversary gift to him. ;) ) We'll see how much of it I get.Well...the light bulbs were a disaster. They didn't seem to work in his lamp. They are supposed to be three-way bulbs, but there was only one wattage that worked. It was a long and complicated process, but he tried them, almost burned his hand, and had to put the old ones back in. That's okay, though, we laughed about it and the "real" gift I gave him worked much better.
I gave him a book "Why a Daughter Needs a Dad", which is full of little one line reasons like, a daughter needs a dad "to give her a safe place to return to" (or something like that). I picked the ones I felt were important in my relationship with him because there were a lot that "fit". Then, I wrote my feelings on those pages. Basically, telling him how he provided those things or filled those needs of mine. He read some while I was there and then told me he was going to read the rest later. Today, the book was out and he told me he read it and reiterated how touching he thinks it is.
Thanks for asking. Sorry it took me so long to reply, but even when things go well, sometimes it's hard to talk about.
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