Posted by TherapyGirl on June 30, 2006, at 20:31:24
In reply to You're welcome » TherapyGirl, posted by susan47 on June 30, 2006, at 14:31:46
You're right about the specifics. We didn't spend much time talking about it because we spent most of the session talking about the surgery, which I am getting more panicked about every day. She did say that she didn't understand my desperation for a session that week. She thought I wanted one (and heard me ask for one), but somehow missed that I didn't think I could get through the week without it.
We did talk about my process of dealing with my anger with her this time without quitting therapy or threatening to quit. This is mostly thanks to the support I got on this board, btw. She was happy with my progress there.
And she did agree to call a moratorium on my being a grown-up who asks for what I need for the next few weeks. I told her I had to use all my grown-up-ness to get my child through this and I needed her to be more proactive and assertive than she normally is. She agreed and we came up with a plan for me to keep in touch with her. I will call her as needed between now and Wed. and she will check her voice mail every day. On Wed. night, we will meet. Thurs. morning, she will call me from her cell on her way into work because if the surgery starts on schedule, that will be right after they take him in and I'm pretty sure I'll be a basket case. For the rest of the day, I'll call and leave messages as needed and she'll call me back between every session if necessary. If something goes terribly wrong, she will get to me as soon as she can, although it will obviously take longer because she'll have sessions scheduled.
All in all, I'm satisfied that the immediate crisis is over. I will probably revisit the misunderstanding itself after I get myself and my child through the next few weeks.
Thanks again for all the support everybody.
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