Posted by Daisym on June 17, 2006, at 23:31:49
In reply to Re: Asking for help trigger?, posted by fairywings on June 17, 2006, at 23:11:26
My guess is that your pants are in a bunch because you need him...right now, not next week. And that is totally understandable. This is one of those stupid therapy things that I believe the psychological community has all wrong. Nobody really learns when they are distressed...they learn when they feel safe. Doesn't anybody study Maslow anymore?!! Imagine how much trust and safety you would create if you got a distressed message and you called back and said, "you sound so upset. I'm sorry I can't get you in and I only have a minute right now, so we can't really process what is going on, but maybe we can touch base tomorrow? Until then, can you write it down for me? (or do whatever else might help you hold it.) But even though I'm short on time, I still wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you and sending you good thoughts."
I mean really, how hard is that? I know we are suppose to be learning to ask for what we need/want but we are also people who are polite and don't want to intrude either. So how about a little credit for that?! (And it makes me insane that therapists will interpret being late a thousand different ways and read into it, but they won't read into a phone call?!)
Ok -- enough ranting. I'm thankful once again that my therapist is good on the phone and not only calls back, but sometimes calls first.
In the meantime, hang in there. We are here for you.
poster:Daisym
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