Posted by Tamar on June 15, 2006, at 20:23:01
In reply to Sh*t faced B*STARD, posted by Dinah on June 15, 2006, at 19:16:22
> I HATE HIM.
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> Guess who's got himself a day job starting Monday and forgot to tell me about it.Unbelievable. How could he forget to tell you? What is it with therapists and their memories?
> I called to let him off the hook Fathers Day, as long as he was going to be around the following week. He said he wasn't sure because he started his new gig which lasts two months on Monday. He said he was sure he had told me and we had discussed the fact that he could see me during the week only at night, and maybe at lunchtime he wasn't sure. We never had anything close to a conversation about it. He never even mentioned it in passing.
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> He said if he didn't mention it to me it was because he hadn't thought it was important. He could still see me Sundays, and at night during the week. And if I couldn't see him at night (which he thought I told him I could) he would try to see me at lunch. He just can't understand why I'm angry.Surely he should know by now that (1) you get angry when he doesn’t give you adequate warning of his absences; and (2) you find abandonment enormously distressing. And forgetting to tell you is as much part of the abandonment as his new job, it seems to me.
> I can't believe I didn't move because of this f*cked up incompetent boob of a therapist. I can't believe I've paid him ten thousand dollars a year for ten f*cking years. He's a bastard.
I can’t understand how it never occurred to him to mention it to you when, after all, you have been talking to him about your decision about whether to move away and (no doubt) the importance of therapy in that decision. Surely it should have prompted him to say, “Oh, by the way, I should tell you that I’m not going to be as available for the next couple of months.”
> If I were a violent person, I could rend him limb from limb I'm so f*cking ANGRY with him.
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> he's a real b*stard(((((Dinah)))))
Can you see him before Sunday? I suppose you might feel you don’t want to talk to him! But I do think he needs to hear your anger face to face. You have every right to be furious. I’m so sorry this has happened. It’s been hard enough for you recently without him compounding things. B*stard.
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