Posted by Racer on May 16, 2006, at 12:23:06
In reply to intrapersonal stress, posted by llrrrpp on May 16, 2006, at 11:01:52
Have you talked to her about this? I know that sounds overly intimidating -- or, that is, it would be for me -- but maybe getting that out between you would help?
You don't have to tell her all of it, but maybe something like, "You know, I've been having kinda a hard time lately. I guess I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself, but lately I find that I'm avoiding you, too, because I'm so anxious about my work. I'm sorry, and I hope you understand that this is Doctoral Nerves." And then tell her what might help you. Maybe it's something like, "Can we meet regularly, just for a five minute update," or "how about we only meet once a month, with an agenda, so that I can feel more prepared," or whatever it would take?
If you can't do that, maybe make up a mantra that would help you deal with it -- "In order to get to be a thesis advisor, she had to complete her own thesis. She went through this, too."
Or, just ignore everything I've said so far and know that you've got a lot of well-wishing here.
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