Posted by orchid on April 21, 2006, at 21:30:40
In reply to Re: An apology for my post yesterday, posted by happyflower on April 21, 2006, at 20:58:26
> Even though you went through some heavy attachment yourself, it seems like to me you are less sensitive to others going through the same thing, even though you have somehow got over it. I feel you still might have some buried emotions about this. I could be wrong but it is what I am feeling. Kinda like your last post,and other simular posts seemed almost passive aggressive to me.
---Orchid
I could very well still have some buried emotions about it. And I could probably be acting on it. I try my best to avoid projecting my own experiences on others, but I think sometimes I slip. That is one of the reasons why I have refrained myself from posting to you for the past few months, since I felt I couldn't be objective in my replies to you and I might end up projecting.
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> The only thing I can say is when you make an apology to someone, to make it more sincere, it shouldn't have an excuse to why, or it will seem like you are making excuses for yourself or defending yourself instead of really apologing.
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> I have learned this through therapy. An apology shouldn't be a discuised use for self justification for an action done.
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> I am trying my best to be civil about this but yet be truthful for how I feel.---Orchid
I think the self justification came from the part, that my original intention wasn't to hurt anyone. True - peopls got hurt, but it was not my intention. And I did feel like clarifying that.Not sure if it was right or wrong etc. I don't think it is wrong to explain one's stance in good faith.
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