Posted by Tamar on April 16, 2006, at 19:59:28
In reply to ending online counselling, posted by canadagirl on April 16, 2006, at 11:26:41
> I must be the only one involved in this type of counselling here.I have to finish up in a couple of weeks. Meaning maybe one more email from me and one from the counsellor. I don't really know how to give myself closure to this. It's funny, I didn't think I would be this emotional about ending a relationship based on a few emails back and forth. But this relationship has come to mean something to me. And it also comes with some other "endings" too going on in my life right now. Any ideas? I don't want to sound too..."transferency" LOL!!!
Hmm… I know nothing about online therapy, but if I recall, the usual way to approach termination in face-to-face therapy is to spend time at the end talking about your feelings about ending therapy. If you have one email left, I think perhaps it makes sense to talk about those feelings now. Many people feel very sad at the end of therapy, and many people experience feelings of abandonment or rejection.
It’s natural that the relationship has come to mean something to you. I don’t think that’s too ‘transferency’.
Have you tried writing down for *yourself* how you feel about coming to the end of this relationship? Maybe if you try journalling you might find ways of raising the subject in your email.
And maybe it would be OK to send a one-liner asking your therapist how s/he usually handles termination.
I hope that’s of some help.
Tamar
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