Posted by orchid on April 10, 2006, at 14:31:48
In reply to Re: how can you hate your mother..., posted by B2chica on April 10, 2006, at 11:07:51
Hi B2C,
I am sorry you are hurting so bad. It is really difficult when persons who are supposed to be our closest relatives and guardians do wrong to us.
Maybe you can think of it this way and see if it helps. The kind of person your mother was, well, she became that, due to several influences on her own life. Nobody chooses voluntarily to be bad. Maybe she had a difficult childhood, or maybe she was abused herself, or perhaps she was uncared for, and became oversensitive to things that happened to her. And she didn't learn how to handle it, and instead took it out on you.
Maybe if you understand that she might have had some very bad things happen to her, and didn't have a right way of learning the proper things, maybe you will be able to let go of the grudge which is bothering you, or atleast be able to become a little indiffrent to it. I don't think you can ever love her too much or like her even. But you might be able to let go of the intense dislike, and that will help you more than it will help your mother. It will help you become more peaceful.
poster:orchid
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