Posted by Dinah on April 3, 2006, at 10:02:39
In reply to Re: Please be civil- well tell them too..., posted by HappyWildflower on April 3, 2006, at 8:34:47
> I am not the one here who has ganged up on a new member.
I realize that it's hard to get used to the civility guidelines here. And I understand that you felt hurt by what others have said. However, it is still not considered allowable under the civility guidelines to comment negatively on the behavior of other posters. It is acceptable to make "I" statements such as "I felt hurt when I read the question about Happywildflower and Happyflower." but it isn't allowable to make statements about another poster, even if preceded by "I". So that "I feel that (followed by a statement about another poster)" is still not allowable.
Ordinarily, the policy is that a person is blocked from posting for a week after they have continued do something that they have been warned not to do. However, since you apologized, and since it *is* difficult to get used to this system, I'm going to instead ask that you rephrase your reply using "I" statements and refraining from commenting negatively on other posters or their behavior.
It was my reading that the other posters were not being uncivil under site guidelines. The original statement about overweight therapists appeared to be an alternative opinion, stated as such, and not uncivil under site guidelines. And the comment about Happywildflower and Happyflower is a common enough statement on Babble when two posting names appear similar enough that people get confused. I don't think there was any ill intent. However I do understand that you felt hurt.
Dr. Bob reviews all deputy actions, and if he feels differently he can adjust accordingly.
It might be worth reviewing the FAQ about I statements.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Dinah, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
poster:Dinah
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URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20060325/msgs/628185.html