Posted by Blossom on March 31, 2006, at 9:31:00
In reply to Re: I kissed my therapist (really)!, posted by dia on March 30, 2006, at 22:48:35
> Blossom how were you able to get past the strong transference feelings for him? That really must feel better to now not worry so much about what he thinks or feel overly self-conscious. I'm trying to get past the same thing right now it's hard!!
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> *Dia*Well, honestly, I don't know. I have to say that over the time that I have known him, he compromised the therapeutic relationship, which really shouldn't have happened. I mean that he started treating me more like a friend than a client. He shared with me about his personal life and I got to know the real him. Okay, so that really SHOULD NOT happen in therapy. But in this case, I think it helped me to get over the transference because I saw that he really is a regular guy with the same problems and personality quirks that everybody else has. He's not always nice and cuddly like a therapist is.
Probably the only reason he got away with it is that I am for the most part, a mentally healthy person right now with a wonderful loving husband and lots of emotional support from other people. I just need a bit of coaching in one particular area.
I know that may not help you figure out how to get over your own transference. I guess it's something that may go away with time as you heal.
Blossom
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