Posted by Dinah on March 28, 2006, at 9:41:07
In reply to Re: words to describe your mother, posted by pegasus on March 28, 2006, at 9:08:32
Your attitude is what I'm trying hard to cultivate. There was no abuse in my situation. Well, my therapist says there was, but I say that there were a handful of times when she lost control and did things she shouldn't have. But it wasn't an ongoing thing. If there was abuse I'd feel differently about trying to think of her in a better way.
I'm trying so hard to improve my relationship with her, because I look at the old home videos and realize that at one time I really loved her. But it's hard. As she's gotten older, her less stellar qualities have gotten more entrenched. And of course, she's been causing me major practical problems for the last few years. And as the most practical member of the family (which is a very scary thought) I'm responsible for trying to keep her out of trouble.
But, in an effort to be more balanced and fair like you were...
My mother is also always open to fun and an adventure, was very supportive of anything I tried to do, treated me with respect from a very young age and always explained why she was telling me to do what she was telling me to do, loved me very much, and she's absolutely wonderful with very small children. She was the best mother she could be given who she is. And in my years before age ten, she may have been the best mom a kid could have.
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