Posted by fairywings on March 17, 2006, at 20:02:15
In reply to Therapist Self-Revealing, posted by Rigby on March 17, 2006, at 10:41:36
I remember reading about your situation quite awhile ago, and remember thinking how I'd feel if the boundaries were one way, and then all of a sudden changed. It seems like she's very ambivalent, doesn't know when to disclose, and when to keep things to herself. Sounds like you were perfectly w/in your rights to ask about the xanax, considering she'd brought up "being similarly wired", and then it seems defensive for her to pull back.
It's good that you're okay with self disclosure, I am too. I'd be okay with my T talking about his therapy bec. he seems pretty even in what he discusses, and doesn't seem to be overly interested in me, or my situation, on anything more than a professional level. But it does sound like your T stuggles with the similarities in your situations. I guess If I thought my T had to read the books I was reading, or compare his psychological state, I might feel more uncomfortable with the disclosure - it would make me wonder, and make me feel like he was using my time to air his stuff.
I don't know, maybe I'm wrong, but it doesn't sound quite right. I think I"d try to question her on it, esp. if she's disclosing and then pulling back, that's not fair. Either do it and be okay with it, or don't do it at all.
Good luck with this.
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