Posted by agent858 on March 16, 2006, at 18:05:38
In reply to Re: Psychotherapy addicting » cecilia, posted by fallsfall on March 16, 2006, at 7:23:02
i think it can be hard to know...
maybe tis about weighing things...
'could benefit'
is that what 'needs therapy' means?
how about if you 'could benefit' from support and people helping you process on boards...
i'm not sure that i've gotten anything (positive) in therapy that i can't get here.
and in therapy there is all this other baggage
unrealistic expectations
getting real upset with off the cuff remarks
feeling really very attached and dependenthelping
or
harmingimo hard to tell...
then add in the cost if i'm terminated or if i have trouble relating to someone... then i'm in danger of suicide. so therapy can be life threatening for me lol.
they want to focus on stuff that... isn't so much of an issue irl outside therapy. they think you need to do that to get better...
sometimes i wonder if it is about getting peopel to deteriorate to a bad place... to haul them out to about where they started from (look how much they have improved over time!)
then you add in the $$$$$
think of what else you could spend that $$$$$$ on.
hrm.
i'm a sceptic.
there is very little evidence that pepole can generalise skills learned in therapy to outside therapy...
the best evidence is for CBT
yet clients tend to report being happier with something psychodynamic...
(here for example)
but there is little evidence it actually helps...ask the drug addict 'do your drugs help you? are they good for you?' and so long as they have a fairly constant supply what are they going to say?
i think therapy can be harmful because it doesn't teach pepole to have realistic two way relationships.
all the stuff that comes up...
you are paying someone to be nice to you.
and you can find it irl... or... you can find it on support boards at any rate. and you learn about reciprocity... (or if you take that on board things go a lot smoother). and... people chat to you because they want to not because they are being paid to.
but sometimes... people in therapy... i think they don't appreciate what they get irl or outside therapy so much because they are so focused on the therapy relationship.
i'm not convinced it is good for pepole.
i don't think it was good for me.it may have been something i liked. something i enjoyed. a little like feeling in love...
but was it good for me?
im not convinced...
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