Posted by Daisym on March 9, 2006, at 0:13:49
In reply to Re: Thought for today...(About self image/self esteem), posted by TherapyGirl on March 8, 2006, at 19:20:07
I think it sounds an awful lot like being afraid to be happy, or proud of yourself. Because as sure as I'm standing here, the minute you are proud of yourself, someone will find a reason that you shouldn't be. So you find it first yourself. You don't allow things to be too good, nor too bad (which is good) only if good can't be good and bad is still bad...you ultimately lose.
It is a very hard thing to convenience yourself that you deserve to be proud of yourself for studying hard, or for identifying your own anxiety. It is almost like the class clown who is so quick to make jokes about himself so everyone else doesn't have to, because everyone else's jokes hurt too much. Better to hurt yourself.
It *is* ok to stop for a moment and be happy about that good grade. You can worry about the other midterm in 2 hours, ok?
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