Posted by caraher on February 26, 2006, at 18:03:49
In reply to Starting marriage counseling next week, posted by gardenergirl on February 25, 2006, at 17:16:48
My wife and I went for a while. But it was fruitless, and the big mistake was that we saw the same person I'd been seeing individually. My wife felt like we were "ganging up" on her.
Try to make it not be about placing blame (even though I know it's all his fault ;) ). It's really more about your future and problem solving than it is about the past. The past will inevitably come up, but you will not be in a courtroom. You're trying to make something better, not pick unnecessarily at old wounds.
poster:caraher
thread:613257
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20060225/msgs/613567.html