Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 9:40:31
In reply to I’ve changed my mind: it’s too scary (TRIGGERS), posted by Tamar on February 24, 2006, at 9:27:58
Tamar. You need to tell him what you're feeling *as* you're feeling it.
I'm the same way. I get upset at something in session, and come home and take it out on myself. Or call him hysterically and accuse him of having bad feelings about me.
I've learned I *have* to do a stream of consciousness about those things.
So last time when he stood up to stretch and moved to the chair that was five feet further away from me, I sat upset for a few minutes then said "You got up and moved away from me! That hurts, I feel rejected! Am I too close?" And we discussed the whole thing right there. It still hurt afterwards but not bad enough to hurt myself.
You can't let therapy be another source of pain to you Tamar. You have too many others right now. Believe me I understand. I really really do. It was hard as heck to start doing this. But it does help.
I'm sorry to put my hands on my hips with you. But I care about you and don't like to see you hurt, even by yourself. Is it ok to give you a cyberhug?
((((((Tamar))))))
poster:Dinah
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