Posted by Tamar on February 23, 2006, at 18:44:13
In reply to Jealousy, posted by Berberis on February 23, 2006, at 8:59:17
> I can only assume it's my fault.
Fault? That sounds a little harsh. Are you being too hard on yourself?
Transference is very painful, but it’s really only possible in certain circumstances. It doesn’t happen with everyone. And it can only happen (I think) if you’re willing to make yourself quite vulnerable. I’m pretty afraid of intimacy and I find it very hard to accept the transference. But trust really is the key. And you have to find someone you can feel a connection with. If it hasn’t happened for you yet, maybe you haven’t found the right therapist yet. The connection is all about the relationship, so the therapist has to be right for you…
Keep trying until you find someone you want to spend time with. And then you will feel the transference. It hurts, but ultimately it’s worth it.
Good luck,
Tamar
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