Posted by Daisym on February 23, 2006, at 0:16:03
In reply to Re: Babble triggers » orchid, posted by Pfinstegg on February 22, 2006, at 22:51:04
I think at issue is whether people bring their doubts or fears into their therapy. I don't see how participating in a site like this is any different than discussing your therapy among family or friends. Especially friends. Maybe people are more open and honest here, asking questions they don't dare ask anywhere else, or expressing wishes, needs or feelings they think are forbidden, even with their therapist.I think people respond honestly too -- and say things your friends might not say.
I think the biggest danger in a site like this is the amount of time you can spend in front on your computer, isolated from direct human interaction. It can become addictive and it is hard not to want to answer every single post. I can also understand how some therapists believe that the intensity of the feelings or the transference bleeds off or dissipates if it gets processed here, instead of during sessions. But again, how is this different than with a close friend or friends. Or maybe I just have really opinionated friends? :)
I'd be really curious to know more about why a therapist would discourage internet sites as a whole instead of processing the feelings of each individual client. I know I use to get freaked out about some of the abuse sites I would visit, especially the "recovered memory" stuff. And when I would bring it into therapy, my therapist would say, "then stay away from those." Duh. And yes, Babble does trigger intense feelings or reactions sometimes. But again, so does my best friend's opinion of how attached I am to my therapist.
My therapist said to me, "I have no interest in trying to control what you are doing...short of self-harm or illegal activities. I just want you to bring it all up during sessions." Makes total sense to me.
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