Posted by fairywings on February 17, 2006, at 0:41:18
My 13 yo daughter came home today wiht three thin red magic marker marks across her wrist. I said, "What's this?" And she said oh this friend of her had come up to her a school and marked her quickly 3 times, and then said You're a cutter! Like she was saying "you're it!" in tag. I told her that I would like her not to do that again. Then she and my older daughter got into a discussion about it, and my older daughter said "that's so disrespectful!" and the younger one came back, but I won't repeat what she said, it was intolerant. They continued their discussion, and I hope the older can influence the younger to be more tolerant of people.
Anyway, later I went to talk to my daughter. I'd never told my kids I cut when I was a teen. I asked about her friend, about the abusive father, about how unhappy the friend is, and how my daughter's dealin w/it. It was so hard to admit to this perfect child, who is sweet, and loyal, a great daughter, and wonderful frined,a perfect student, that her mom was 'emo" as a teen - that I had cut as a teen. She hugged me and we talked.
Her friend was cutting on her legs, but has stopped, she's in therapy, but her father is horrible, such a tyrrant. Now the friend isn't wearing shorts or bathing suits. Sad, that at 15 she sees no way out. I will talk to her.
It's brought up a lot of feelings for me - a panic like I'm suffocating bec. of the images of the cutting intermingled with the rape. And then I think about my daughters friend, and her legs and the bloody tissues, and I find it so depressing. He dad is sick and needs therapy and meds. He's so harsh, mean, cruel.SAD
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