Posted by frida on January 30, 2006, at 16:42:57
In reply to About being someone's Jessica, posted by jammerlich on January 30, 2006, at 13:26:33
That's so beautiful
Í'm so glad that you and your ex-teacher have become friends and share a special relationship.
I've had something similar happen, with a teacher from university.
She was my teacher in third year and I wrote very personal essays and she responded warmly to them. Well when I finished I wrote an email to her. And she invited me for coffee the following week. After that we exchanged mails and we became friends. I helped her plan her wedding, she comes to my birthday, we keep in touch and share things. It's pretty special to me. I love her dearly.And I have one student that years after she was my student, became my special little friend. She's much younger than me, she's 19 now, and we share a very special relationship. I go to her house, we go out, she trusts me, I help her out, she shares the important things that happen in her life.
It's very comforting when this happens.
When I am with my ex-teacher, I can't believe that once I was her student. Now she feels much more like a friend. I've called her crying a lot of times, and she has comforted me a lot. We share a real and sweet relationship.
and I do have hope that maybe I'm a Jessica to my T :-)
i believe we've shared a lot together and I've given her all I have inside and I feel she values everything and has crossed boundaries for me to prove me I can trust her. I do feel she does care. :-)
Just sharing :-)Frida
> I didn't want to hijack Dinah's thread, but it really got me to thinking about being someone's Jessica. As much as I would like to be one, I don't know if I was a Jessica to my ex-T. But I did realize that I am a Jessica to someone!! And it's someone with whom I get to have a real relationship. It's been pretty emotional to think about - painful, yet comforting at the same time.
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> She was my teacher 20 years ago and I have always loved her. We get together occasionally for lunch and I was pleasantly surprised when she started to confide in me about her own life - it's a real relationship now, between equals. I am so grateful to have her in my life. I think she was the only authority figure I had as a child who treated me with respect and made me feel she was genuinely interested in me as a person.
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> She sent me this in an email a few months ago and I will save it forever: "I am always overcome with gladness when I see you and think about you as a girl. You are such a joy!!!! I can't tell you how much I needed those encouraging words. God sends special people as his angels on earth. You are definitely one of mine."
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> She is my angel too. Anyway, I just wanted to share that. And see if anyone else might have some stories to share. I find them very uplifting.
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