Posted by All Done on January 25, 2006, at 17:10:53
In reply to I have a question... I'm a little annoyed, posted by littlegirllost on January 25, 2006, at 12:27:27
Hi, lgl!
I understand what you’re feeling. I would venture to say your answer could be different given different types of therapy...I’m not sure. I’m in psychodynamic therapy and my T has always made it my responsibility to decide what we talk about (at least to start). Sometimes I’ve begged him to pick the topic. Last time I did that, he started talking about his recent Ebay sales and purchases..."okay smart aleck, I get the point." ;)
Anyway, I’ve been in therapy just over two and a half years. I think I was in crisis management mode for most of the first two years. It wasn’t until fairly recently that we began working on deeper stuff. I suppose I needed to trust him. I needed to know that he could handle anything I said and do it in a way that wouldn’t hurt me. I needed a deep attachment to him. Ironically, though, it seems to be that attachment that makes it easier for me to be hurt by him, but at least I know we can and will always talk about it. I don’t let go of or forget about stuff between us until it’s resolved. I won’t let him off the hook that easily. :)
It was kind of strange, I guess. I just got to the point where I decided I didn’t want to talk about the day to day stuff anymore. I wanted more out of therapy. That said, the first two years were all part of the process and I wouldn’t change anything.
I hope therapy starts to feel more worthwhile for you. If nothing else, I would suggest that you tell her what you’ve told us here.
Good luck!
Laurie
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