Posted by Susan47 on January 25, 2006, at 0:03:37
In reply to Re: attraction to therapist, trust....please help, posted by asmita on January 24, 2006, at 19:03:23
> thank you so much madeline for your reply.
> i'm not sure how i'm supposed to be dealing with feeling this way, for a while i denied that i was even attracted to him which just sort of made it worse. it seems like a really strange sort of relationship i'm supposed to have with my therapist, like not even really a friendship, but in some ways so much more than that.
> at the moment i can't imagine telling him about what i'm feeling. how did you go about it?
> i haven't even told my therapist much about my life/feelings in general...i guess i should work on that first. i'm terrified of him figuring out by himself that i'm attracted to him, he has sort of hinted at before...after that i was so embarrassed and avoided any eye-contact with him. but i realise that i probably won't get much out of the sessions if i keep trying to ignore it. my feelings for him seem to bring out this feeling of unworthiness in me and mistrust toward him, which is obviously not very productive.....
Well no, it's not obviously unproductive, the feelings of unworthiness and mistrust that're developing along with your strong feelings of attachment are probably speaking to you about some real emotional thing you need to deal with, likely from early childhood? I mean, why when you're really developing strong emotional attachment towards this person who's setting himself up for that (maybe without realizing it!) ... why at this time would you also feel the unworthiness most strongly, and the mistrust, which is probably growing along with your feelings of attachment .. omigod, I mean, if I had known then what I know now ... or think I know ... be really really careful about your communication with him after you do tell him how you feel. If you do. Don't hurt yourself, don't get hurt to the point where you can't communicate with him anymore.
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